I have seen too many good people get tangled into a self-constructed trap of their past. It becomes a common belief that, because of some past action or behavior, they do not deserve more enriching or joyful opportunities in their present lives. It breaks my heart because this is just so terribly untrue. Every being deserves happiness.
People, in general, tend to screw up quite a bit. We’re not the most perfect species. We’re constantly making questionable judgement calls, both individually and collectively. Fortunately, that doesn’t actually doom us to a life of deserved misery as some might believe. Quite the contrary, in fact. These types of “oops!” experiences tend to become catalysts for change. Now of course, there are those select few who, I’m sorry, are just dumb as rocks and never learn anything from their mistakes. Those types of people often continue creating their own problems without ever stopping to ponder the whole issue anyhow. But for the most part, we make our mistakes, learn from them, and move forward.
If we desire to be better human beings and then we actually start being better human beings, then the past is no longer the definition of who we are. For example, if one has previously had a drug addiction, but has recovered from it, then that addiction is no longer the truth of who that person is. Or perhaps a person has overcome anger or emotional instability. The actions of the past are no longer the truth of who that person is. The person has elected to change for some compelling reason or another. These types of change should be bringing us to a more positive place in life, and certainly not to a place of guilt.
When we are thinking and acting from a place of present-positivity, we are better able to attract and accept more positive energy into our existence and understanding. The trouble seems to be in getting people to truly believe that they deserve to be in a place of present-positivity to begin with. It is so deeply important to embrace that realization. We are NOT our past. We are our NOW. We are the choices that we make in this present moment. We are not locked down by what we have done in the past or mistakes we made on some other day.
Of course there are times that we become burdened with unfinished business that has to be taken care of in order to let go of our personal attachment to an issue. Sometimes we have to make an apology to someone else. Other times we have to choose to forgive without ever receiving an apology that we may rightly deserve. And then there are times when we lose those kinds of chances altogether and have to simply leave a past problem behind us. The choice then becomes to sit with it and allow time and reflection, and personal self-awareness to take its course. In whatever case, we all deserve the chance to make proper amends and relieve our burdens.
The fact is simply that choosing to live a better life gives us liberation from the binds of our past. While we are obviously permanently responsible for our own actions, we do have the freedom to learn and gain from them. We are not here to suffer. We are here to experience, learn, and do our best with the time we are given. Never let the past define you. Give yourself fully to the present moment, live your life for now.
It doesn’t matter who, what, or where you used to be.
What matters is who, what, and where you are right this very moment.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
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